We’re constantly told that we need to ‘take a chance’ and ‘go for it’ in our personal and professional lives – but sometimes this is easier said than done. The fear of rejection is very real and something that affects nearly everyone. What if they say no? What if I embarrass myself? What if my confidence is knocked forever? What if, what if, what if? Firstly, you’re not alone if you’ve experienced some of these questions and they’ve held you back. Secondly, you can face that fear of rejection and get past it! We spoke to Dione Lockyer
, Founder of Mindset Mentor. She works with individuals to ‘un-funk’ their minds and set them free from a negative mindset and has experienced and fought fear of rejection first-hand…
The fear of rejection was real!
As the alarm filled our bedroom, my heart sank. Another night of no sleep. It was 6:30am, I felt exhausted and the day hadn't even started. I’d had yet another nightmare about my husband leaving me for another woman, my children were also drowning in a pool and I was unable to save them. I would wake up in a pool of sweat, crying hysterically while believing the dream was a reality. These dreams were a regular occurrence and would create a negative effect on my whole day. I would start an argument with my husband, accusing him of things that he hadn't even done whilst becoming an over-protective mother to my boys. I had created a wedge between my family and myself but why was I doing it?
I feared rejection and became a slave to my mind! I always felt as if I was not worthy of being loved. I feared that whether it was now or at some point in my life, I was going to face rejection from those I loved the most.