What a year. WHAT a year. I think I speak for everyone when I say that I can’t wait to see the back of 2020, in some ways. The year has taken a lot from us: weddings, birthdays, holidays, career moves and much more. It’s also been kind to us in some ways. We’ve been allowed the time to slow down a little, stop commuting as much and just reclaim a little personal time instead of running around like crazy.
But do you remember at the beginning of lockdown, way back in March (doesn’t that seem so long ago?), we all made resolutions – whether we said them out loud or not, to do better, be better. Well, the year is coming to an end now, and maybe you haven’t done everything you wanted to do.
In the middle of a pandemic, that’s not something to be ashamed of. However, it’s natural to feel down about things you haven’t completed or bad habits you haven’t shaken. But we’re here today to let you know that it’s okay and to give you a list of 8 things to let go of for 2021, through lessons learned in 2020.
#1 Fearing Your Future
If there’s anything this year has taught us, it’s that we simply CANNOT predict the future. If we could, I doubt so many of us would have made travel plans for 2020! With this, there is the clear lesson that if we can’t predict the future – how can we fear it? If you’ve been holding back on planning or taking action because of fear of how it’ll work out, now’s your chance to let that go.
#2 Dwelling on the Past
Leading on from letting go of fearing the future, it’s now the time to let go of dwelling on your past. It’s done – it’s over. Move on and take the best from your past scenarios. Learn those lessons and take them with you.
#3 Bad Spending Habits
This year has been really tough on people’s finances, and many of us have had to make some really tough decisions. Along with this, we’ve been able to take a long, hard look at the services we can cut down. Why not this year, make it a goal to let go of your bad spending habits and save a little more money for a rainy day?
#4 Toxic People in Your Life
Life is TOO short for spending time with those who don’t bring us joy. Even if you don’t want to rock the boat, I promise you you’ll end up feeling worse in the long run. So do what you need to – block, delete, don’t answer messages – anything to ensure your new year is filled with people who you enjoy being around.
Speaking of life being too short, aren’t you bored of constantly belittling yourself? I know I am. Can we make a pact this year to be kinder to ourselves? Don’t wait until the new year! Start practising saying nice things to yourself now, and it will be much easier as time goes on.
#6 Fear of Not Being in Control
Another thing that 2020 has taught us, is that you can’t be in control of ANYTHING. Maybe this year it’s a time to ease up on yourself and stop trying to control the narrative of your life so much. Sometimes, the best things happen when we’re not expecting it.
#7 Thinking You’re Not Ready
Is anyone ever ready for anything? A house move, a new job, a baby? It’s literally impossible to be completely ready for anything; there are always going to be variables. So many people hold themselves back because they’re worried they’re not going to be ready for it. Make this the year you stop holding yourself back.
#8 Comparison with Others
We have said it time and again at Kossie. Stop comparing yourself to others! There is so much opportunity for comparison across social media and in everyday life that you actually need to make a conscious effort to not think of yourself in the shadow of someone else. We need to make more effort to work on ourselves – and you need to look forwards instead of looking sideways.
What are you letting go of for 2021?