How to deal with a Perfectionist manager?
We’ve all experienced it. Working at a great company and looking forward to everything the job entails. You may have been given a new project and can’t wait to get stuck in. You’re raring to go until…your manager steps in at every opportunity to give you constant ‘tips’, call you out on the smallest mistakes and setting goals or deadlines which you KNOW are going to be unrealistic to achieve…where do you even start with coping with this stress? Luckily we have Rosalyn Palmer, award-winning Advanced Rapid Transformational Therapist & Coach on hand to help. She shares her professional advices on similar scenarios collected from our readers that can help how to deal with a perfectionist manager at work: –
1.“The pressure of trying to get EVERYTHING perfect stresses me out, to a point where I’m only working to meet my manager’s expectations…”
It can be draining to work for a perfectionist, as their unrealistic expectations can make you feel that your time and input is not valued unless it meets their exact request and expectations. However, their perfectionism will mean that they are not good at delegating to others as they will have anxiety about doing things perfectly and therefore struggle to start or finish tasks for fear of getting them wrong. Do not let their perfectionism, that can result in self-sabotage for them and the team, stress you
. To counter this, you need to set your own boundaries. For example, if they email you at out-of-office times you may choose to not respond until you are back in the office unless it is truly urgent. When given a timeframe for a task, suggest a more realistic one, stressing that this will enhance the outcome of the task. As perfectionists struggle to set realistic limits on tasks themselves, they can value this support when it comes from a teammate who is firm but kind. Also get their buy-in by asking them to prioritise all the tasks they have set you. If they are unwilling or unable to do this, then set your own goals and an achievable workload. At least this way you will end the day with a sense of personal satisfaction for a job well done.
2.“I know that sometimes my manager’s criticism comes with good intentions, but being criticised on a daily basis over trivial things is a little too much…”