In this era where unpredictability and adjustments seem to have become an indispensable part of our lives, we’re prone to experience stress and anxiety when we don’t know what it is we’re stepping into or to feel overwhelmed by things we feel are out of our control.It’s easier then, to fall into the trap of invalidating ourselves. And this constant battle with the “inner voice” can potentially turn into an emotionally destructive cycle. In face of a big crisis, it’s especially important that we appreciate how much we’ve gone through and to be kind and understanding to ourselves as much as we do for others. The least, yet most, we can do for ourselves is to add a dose of self-encouragement into our daily lives. On this note, we’re here today with Sara Kuburic, certified counselor and life-coach specialised in existential analysis, to give you tips on finding self-compassion despite living in challenging times.
Am I Not Performing As Well As Before?Is it just me, or are we living in this timeless transition between pre- and post-pandemic era? As life’s begun to return to normal, you may find yourself getting anxious about transitioning back to your previous routine, not sure if you’ll be able to perform as well as you did before, job-wise and life-wise. In light of this, Sara stressed that our attitudes matter as much as our actions. “It’s important for us to adjust our expectations and approach our transition back into previous routines with grace and patience,” she said. “Instead of measuring our performance by comparing it to pervious contexts and versions of ourselves, we should maintain focused on being the best versions of ourselves in the present moment.” Rather than comparing and measuring of our performance as “before” and “after,” we should recognise what we’re confronting to overcome the uncertain. “Understanding that we have gone through something very challenging – if not traumatic – can help us maintain realistic expectations and goals,” she said. With clearer goals set in mind, we can then re-evaluate ourselves and the patterns that we don’t want to go back to.