What could be better than sex? Solo sex.
Masturbation still remains a taboo topic these days, especially for women, though there’re more and more scientific research that back up the many health benefits it gives to our general wellbeing.
Self-pleasure and making ourselves feel good is a form of self-care. Because you’re answering your body’s needs and and fulfilling your sexual satisfaction.
So, we’ve got 12 masturbation tips that your star sign to try out, and hopefully inspire you to go on a whole new exploration of your own sexual pleasure.
Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
The art of masturbation is that it’s unique to you and you only. There’s not one approach to doing it. It’s about experimenting with what works for your body. Spend some time with your vulvar, and learn about its unique anatomy (Use a mirror if it helps). Knowing how your vulvar is shaped is going to help you experiment better and find what works best for you.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
Set the mood right
Even when you’re in the moment, if the background is just not right, it can ruin the mood of the whole experience. Having a comfortable surrounding can make a huge difference to the room’s and your inner energy. A darker, soft and calm ambience, for example, can help you connect to your sexuality better. Try dimming the lights a little, or even lighting an aromatic candle. Set the mood right before getting in the mood.
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Play with yourself
With so many sex products out there, it could be overwhelming to find the one that’s right for you. Figure out what your needs are. There are going to be some that are accessible to your unique needs. Don’t be afraid to try things out. Only settle for things that can satisfy you. Also, always stock some batteries at home, they could be life saver at times when you need them most.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Don’t forget your other hand
Give yourself a full body experience. Don’t hesitate to use your other free hand. Massage area around your clitoris or other sensitive parts. Your anatomy is very complex and learning about your sexual needs is a path of self-discovery. Spend some time with your body and you’ll explore what feels best for you.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
It’s not all about orgasm
There’s this common mentality, especially among men, that achieving orgasm is the goal of a sexual encounter. When you apply that to masturbating though, it can reduce the pleasure of the moment. Masturbation is all about pleasure. Self-pleasure. You’re not trying to please anyone but yourself. Slow down to the pace that feels best to you. Forget about how quickly or whether you get to orgasm, focus on the sensation of your body in the moment instead. Drop the expectation and give your body a full undistracted experience.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Lube is a must-have to making sex feel more pleasurable. But it certainly isn’t just used for sex with your partner, it’s great for all types of sex, including masturbation! Don’t be afraid to test out different lubes. After all, you know your body best so make sure you test out a couple of options before settling on the one that is just perfect for you.
Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Try tantric orgasm
It’s basically orgasm but on a more profound, spiritual level. It’s a combination of masturbating and meditating. It helps you fully immerse in the experience of sexual pleasure by being present with the energy within the body. Start with deep breathing, allow your mind to quiet and body to be present. Slightly massage your erogenous zones to help you stay present with the feel-good spots before having an orgasm. And when you masturbate, take it slowly and softly, spend time to explore and experience techniques that serve you.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Relax, don’t stress
Masturbation should be the last thing you should stress about. It’s supposed to be an enjoyment, not another task to check off. When you’re in a state of relaxation, your body is going to respond better with your sexual senses. The pleasure is not in finishing it but the whole experience of it. So, don’t worry about the ifs and shoulds, just enjoy the sensation of the here and now.
Libra (September 23 – October 22)
Embrace your fantasies
Let’s get that out of the way: we all have our own fantasies and desires, and sometimes we may feel ashamed about them. I’m here to tell you that there’s nothing to be guilty of. If something excites you, who cares what other people think? Just go for it.
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
There’s more than one option
Don’t restrict yourself to doing it in the bedroom. You don’t have to be on your bed. The kitchen, the bathroom or the tub may just be the perfect ambience for you. Run a bath, grab a glass of wine and you got yourself everything you need. Don’t forget: make sure your surrounding is clean first!
Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
The key to having any pleasurable sex is probably getting turned on first. And sometimes you’ll need some external stimulation to help with that. And that’s okay! Whatever it is that can turn you on, include it. Whether it’s reading some erotica or watching porn, if it can enhance your experience, go for it.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
Make it a party
I’m sure there’re times when you find yourself in this dilemma: should I masturbate when my partner is at home? The answer is yes! In fact, if you want to spice things up, mutual masturbation is actually a really fun way to connect with your partner! By having your partner watch you, and vice versa, they can know more about how you like to be pleasured. So then it can help with your sex life as well.