Getting to Know Lissette
Could you tell us a bit about yourself?
I’m originally from Miami and I currently live in New York. I’m an influencer coach, consultant of influencer marketing, and content creator.
An interesting fact about you?
I have never eaten a burger, and it’s an ironic fun fact because I’m not vegan – I just don’t like burgers, and I actually met my partner at a burger restaurant!
Lissette’s Mental Health Story
Are there any turning points in your life where you didn’t feel the best with your mental health?
Two things come to mind. The first one is my journey with ADHD.
I was diagnosed when I was a kid. But when I went to college, that became a big turning point. Before I’d be in programs where I was in smaller classrooms and had every environment around me working in my favor. And in college, I was in a different learning environment for the first time where I was in a room with 300 people trying to get our professor’s attention.
I was also struggling with getting the right support because I was uneducated on the topic. Because of this, it catapulted a few other mental health issues that I had to deal with and my first ever panic attack.
I’d say it was a result of not really understanding my body and my mental health. Thankfully, that panic attack did catapult me into seeking professional help.
While it was a crazy turning point for me, it actually taught me to prioritize taking care of my mental health. Since then, I’ve worked with different people in the medical field on my ADHD and symptoms of panic.
The second thing, which I think a lot of people probably relate to, was that 2020 was a whole new mental health journey that I wasn’t prepared to address.
It was the first year that I was completely working on my own. Thankfully, I’m super fortunate that my business has done incredibly well. Because of that, I took a lot of the profit I made and reinvested it back into mental health support.
I spent a majority of my income hiring outside help like mindset coaches, therapy, and a psychiatrist. I was trying to not repeat the things that had happened to me when I was in college. I was now arming myself with a team of people that could help me through the mental health issues.
That was the second turning point where I realized mental health is an ongoing healing process.
Better Me, Better Life
What support systems do you have?
I think every support entity has been for a different reason and they’re all valid in their own way.
The first person I ever saw was in college when I had panic attacks and was coping with ADHD. It was the first time I had willingly gone to a psychiatrist myself. I saw the value of getting medical advice and explanation to everything that was going on. And that kind of reassured me that I’m not abnormal, but this is something I can work on, something I can heal. So that was very encouraging.
But the thing with psychiatrists is that a lot of what they do is solving a medical problem. And for me, I still need a little bit more of general support.
I find that using therapy apps, being a part of communities, having supportive friends who also struggle with mental health, are all like my mini therapists. Even though they don’t have that medical backing, the support system around me has really helped me.
In addition, being a business owner, I need the support of mindset coaches, who give me that zoomed out view of how being mentally okay and understanding myself and my purpose can influence my business.
I think that all these are complementary to mental health because while the psychiatrist can help me with the actual medical reason, a mindset coach helps me apply these things into my business.
For people who don’t know how to ask for help or are afraid to do so, what are some steps they can take to seek the support they need?
The first thing is creating a network of support that you’re comfortable with and that is accessible to you.
If you can afford a therapist, please get one. If you can build a group of trusted friends and family members who are going to check in on you when they know something is wrong, do that.
Sometimes, just talking it out with someone and being heard and seen can make a huge difference. You never know how much you need that support until you receive it. So, preemptively build that group of people and medical professionals if resources allow.
The second thing is owning your own story.
I think a lot of the fear of speaking up comes from this fear of being judged or that someone is going to expose something about you or think differently about you.
While I still struggled with this fear of being vulnerable, one thing that very much helped me was, one time on social media I talked about a couple things people might not know about me. And in one of those line items, I said I actually have been working with ADHD all my life.
That moment of just admitting it, and putting that out there, I felt like I know my story. I own my story. And I say it to you so that you can’t change my story. You can’t say something differently about me because I know who I am.
So, feel confident in who you are, solidify your story for yourself because that will help you feel a little less scared and be more confident in what your journey is.
Lissette’s Wellbeing Recipe
What does mental health wellness mean to you?
Number one is recognizing what you’re going through.
If your insurance provides mental health appointments for free, try to get some support and acknowledge what’s going on. That’s going to be super helpful because knowing where to start, what communities to look for, and what support you need comes from knowing what you’re going through.
Number two is finding the right resources within your context.
For example, in my case, I work with social media and there are mental health issues that are very different in the context of social media as it is for someone who works at a job that is unrelated to what I do. So, I’d try to find these communities and thought leaders that are going to help me contextualize my mental health issues within that space.
What is your daily self-care routine? Any practice you’d recommend?
One, go outside every day. There was a period of time where I couldn’t go out for three months, and I realized how heavy that took a toll on my mental health. So now, I prioritize going outside. For me, it’s walking the dog or just going outside into the area that we have.
Two is the skincare routine. For me, it’s also a mental health routine because it’s really a time to disconnect and not be with anything. It’s kind of like a double win of a routine. Whether it’s skin care or something else, I’d say just find one routine a day that involves no use of technology and the use of both of your hands.
The third thing that’s helped me is journaling, especially free writing. Just open up a page and write whatever is going on through your head. Because once you get your thoughts out loud or on paper, they kind of get lifted off your body. And that is a very healing thing.
As someone whose work centers on social media, how do you find the balance between mental wellness and social media?
The first thing is remembering if there’s something you feel like you’re the only person who’s going through this, I promise you someone else is also going through it.
If you ever feel compelled to share something but you’re a little afraid, remind yourself that someone can find a lot of value in you sharing that moment. The reason I’d say to share things is to make someone else feel less alone and feel seen and heard.
The second part is social media is public, and that means there are people out there who might not like what you’re doing. With that, make sure you’re always setting boundaries.
For example, I’m very cognizant of what I share and what I don’t. So, really set those boundaries for yourself so you are less likely to receive negative messages.
Also, if you are receiving negative messages, a boundary to me is blocking the person who makes me feel bad right now. I’d turn off my social media if I have an overwhelming amount of responses, good or bad, because I just might not be in the right state of mind.
To All of You Who’re Reading
A final word of wisdom to our readers who are struggling with ADHD or panic attacks?
When it comes to ADHD, or any mental health issues, understand and focus on your gifts. For example, I know a lot of entrepreneurs with ADHD that are multi-passionate. So, focus on the things that ADHD does in a positive sense for you, embrace that multi-passionate you.
For someone with anxiety, it probably means you’re much more empathetic, and you feel things way deeper than a lot of people. Be grateful for that gift so you can start to see the mental health issues you deal with not as your enemy but as something that walks with you.
Of course, try to heal the things mental health issues are affecting your life, but definitely embrace the lessons they have given you so that you can appreciate them more.
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To learn more about working with Lissette on her 1:1 coaching, check out her website: http://www.influencewithimpact.co/