How To Find Inner Peace Within Ourselves?
Life is super busy, and with everything going on at the moment, it can feel like you’re constantly going through turmoil and upset. Wouldn’t it be lovely to experience a little bit of peace? Imagine going through your days feeling slightly more relaxed and focused on your goals, rather than having that ‘swan legs’ feeling (serene on the surface, paddling madly underneath!). We spoke to Evelyn Huynh, CEO of Evolve with Evelyn. She is a Spiritual Evolution Coach as well as a Life and Success Coach – and she’s here today to answer your concerns.
1.“I get overwhelmed so easily, especially handle high-pressure deadline. How can I cope with deadline anxiety? Is there any way I can feel calm whilst speeding up the process and getting everything done?”
Evelyn: This is an amazing question! Overwhelm usually happens when a person believes the stressors they’re experiencing are too great to handle. When we’re in a state of stress, it has been proven that it can affect our decision-making abilities, which can impact our feelings of anxiousness. Whenever my clients tell me they’re overwhelmed or stressing out about high-pressure deadlines, the first thing I encourage them to do is get grounded. Go meditate for a bit, take a walk, and focus on BREATHING.
When you’re able to clear your mind of all the stressors going on in your life, it makes it much easier for you to think clearly, to trust your intuition and create clear action steps to move forward. When most people get overwhelmed, they panic, get frantic, and often sit in procrastination. Time will pass by regardless, however, if you’re able to actually focus on being in the present moment and getting what you need to get done, done… you’ll be able to make much better use of your time!
2. “I feel very angry and speechless when my friend is being ridiculous and talking nonsense, like shouting at me for things that I didn’t do. How am I able to stay calm?”
Evelyn: GAH! I love this question too! If there’s one word I have for this, it’s compassion. It’s easy for us to internalise situations like these as if there is something that WE did wrong, but often… these events have nothing to do with us.
If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that every single one of us has wounds, we all have something called childhood wounds and inherited family trauma, or inter-generational trauma. What I mean by this is that a lot of us have experienced some form of wound in our childhood (or passed down from generations) that sometimes show up in our adult life.
So whenever this happens, I encourage you to remind yourself that it’s not your fault, and to meet them with kindness and compassion. You can give them space and let them know that you’re here if they need any support. Or you can ask questions and help them work through their feelings if you feel called to!
3. “I am an overthinker! How can I distinguish between relevant thoughts and overthinking? How can I stop my mind from overthinking?”
Evelyn: “If you think, you don’t know” → this quote has completely changed my life. As human beings, we are in our heads ALL day long. From the moment we wake up to the moment our heads hit the pillow. When we take a second to slow down, to finally catch our breath and tune into our heart… that’s when the answers flow to us, and thinking isn’t required.
When we overthink, it’s because we’re constantly in our heads and disconnected from our heart and our intuition.
According to the American Psychological Association, some common reasons for overthinking include:
- belief that by overthinking, you’ll gain insight into your life or a problem
- having a history of emotional or physical trauma
- facing ongoing stressors that can’t be controlled
So here are my top 3 tips to stop your mind from overthinking:
- Distract yourself (call up a family member or a friend, and do something that allows you to break the cycle of overthinking
- Create a plan of action on how you can address the problem or the situation you’re overthinking about and take one small step to address the issue
- Question your thoughts. Oftentimes, our overthinking stems from a limiting belief that we have… so question it! Where did it come from? Why does it exist?
4. “I understand the concept of decluttering my physical space, but I don’t understand how to declutter my mental space when I am feeling information overload?”
Evelyn: Think about it this way… if you were to declutter your space — in order to do it efficiently, you’d have to take all the items out so that you know what you’re working with, then you start sorting and throw out the things you don’t want to keep and keep the rest!
It’s very similar when it comes to your mental space. When you’re feeling information overload… write down EVERYTHING that’s on your mind! I call this a brain dump. Put all your thoughts and everything that’s in your head out on paper or somewhere safe on your computer. The moment you can see what’s going on inside your head down on a piece of paper, it’s much easier for you to sort and go through it and remove any thoughts that you no longer need or doesn’t serve you!