Traditionally, romantic relationships take place between two people. However, there is a trend that is growing in popularity and could be the biggest thing to hit the dating world in a long time!
Polyamory, not to be confused with polygamy (which is when a person marries more than one partner), is when someone has multiple romantic and sexual partners, all of whom are aware of the others’ existence. “Poly” comes from the Greek word meaning many, and “amory” from the Latin for love. In fact, more and more young people are abandoning monogamy in favour of open relationships. But is it really that easy to turn your back on jealousy and how can you keep up with more than one person?
A Growing Trend
It’s difficult to put an exact figure on it, but it’s currently estimated that 4 to 5 percent of people living in the United States are polyamorous – or participating in other forms of open relationships – and 20 percent of people have at least attempted some kind of open relationship at some point in their lives! Do those numbers surprise you?
To be polyamorous, poly people say NO to the traditional end game of monogamy: society’s expectation that couples will cycle through marriage and kids. Instead, they let their relationships flow and ebb, and allow feelings to take over instead of ‘what is expected’.
Marriage is losing popularity for Millennials and if you think about it, unless you’re religious, there aren’t really any rules to tell you how many people you can love and in this modern era, no one to stop you, either!
No One Set Path
To be poly, you need to realise that no two types of open relationships look the same. They each come with their own set of rules agreed upon by the couple. This can look like a ‘throuple’, which is three people in a relationship – or even more people!
Some couples may not have sex at all, whereas others will agree that they only hold foreplay. Some couples many agree that they can’t have sex with the same person more than once or let casual partners spend the night. Whatever is decided is completely fine, however both (or all) partners) need to agree on those terms – and feel comfortable!
How do people find other polyamorous individuals? Well, the rise of dating apps has DEFINITELY helped! Rather than meeting people in person and beating around the bush, daters are able to have more of a conversation ahead of meeting to figure out if the other person is thinking along the same wavelength as them.
As time goes on, it could be that we’re heading more towards a future of open relationships and polyamorous experiences. More people are getting the idea that it’s possible to be happy and healthy without being monogamous – but could you do it? Let us know in the comments what you think of a polyamorous relationship!